As a career professional, volunteer, mom, wife, and friend, I focus on the positive aspects of life, even when the road is rough getting there. Life is funny. How you treat others, how you handle situations, and how you live each day is your responsibility ... so are the outcomes.
As the seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, and years pass by, how many times do you say you will do it tomorrow. Did tomorrow ever come?
I just returned from vacation. I had a lot of time to think about why, at times, I cannot remember what I did last week, much less two or three days ago. I had every excuse in the book for myself. What it really came down to was I had not been stopping to "smell the roses" surrounding me each day.
How many times have you talked to a relative or friend and all you hear is every bad ordeal in their life. When you ask them to name three positive elements in their life, it takes more time to think about it than rattling off the slew of negatives. Prior to my vacation, I felt like I was becoming one of "those people" even though I have always had a positive outlook and reaction to life situations.
While I was doing my soul searching and coming to terms with how I was going to get myself out of the funk I was in, it dawned on me how I had been filling most of my "spare time" with events and experiences, which did not contribute to my inner happiness or personal wealth. It was a no wonder I could not remember two or three days ago...they were not important or significant. Nothing I was doing was enlightening me. All I was doing was filling time gaps. How sad was this reality check. So now I knew where to begin. I needed to identify what really makes me feel energized and full of life.
Have you ever asked for a sign to tell you are on the right track? Well, I received one. Ironically, it was from our son. He did not know I was going through my mentals, even though he and our daughter are always on my mind. They are two of my internal happiness buttons. All of us struggle to live for the future instead of living for the moment at hand. Time passes. It cannot be recaptured or taken back.
During my talk with myself, I made the decision to live in the moment and rebuild my personal wealth.
Here was my "sign" from our son telling me I was on the right track.
"Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.
I got to thinking one day about all those people on the Titanic, who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible.
How many women out there will eat at home, because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word 'refrigeration' mean nothing to you?
How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched ' ' on television?
I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, 'How about going to lunch in a half hour?' She would gas up and stammer, 'I can't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain' And my personal favorite: 'It's Monday.' She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together.
Because people cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches...We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!
We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Steve toilet-trained...We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of
Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of 'I'm going to,' 'I plan on,' and 'Someday, when things are settled down a bit.'
When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Rollerblades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.
My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-Decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.
Now...go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to...not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?
Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through
each day on the fly? When you ask 'How are you?' Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, 'We'll do it tomorrow.' And in your haste, not see her sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let
a good friendship die? Just call to say 'Hi'?
When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift.....Thrown away.... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over."
Don't let time pass without knowing why and enjoying it as it does.