I work very hard and am attending college to obtain my degree in the Human Service field. Writing makes me feel alive and gives me the opportunity to touch those whom I would not be able to otherwise. Last but not least, I have been blessed with two amazing daughters who love me completely and support my dreams. Feel free to contact me with questions, concerns or feedback.
Hey all..... here I am, stopping by to drop some thoughts off. As usual, this one will be about relationships...
Alot of women wish their men would express themselves verbally. I always have. I know for me it is really important to me to hear if someone likes me, thinks I am beautiful, etc.. I think it has to do with re-affirmation. Also, hearing for most women is believing. To me it always has been. I think this thought process has always gotten me into the wrong relationships. So many people are so eager to drop the "like" or "love" word to keep someone around. I think men know if they say it, we believe it. It must be true. Why would someone say it if he didn't mean it?
Listen up ladies! What ever happened to actions? I believe the man you are with might like you, even love you, but how does he treat you? Does he open doors for you? Does he make you feel comfortable? Better yet, does he make sure that you feel safe? How does he treat your heart? How do you feel when you are with him? How does he treat his mother, sister, or past girlfriends?
I think we should take a step back and not only analyze our relationships but put them to the test. If your guy is not treating you with respect, taking care of you, listening to you, and there for your during the difficult times, then take a step back. I believe that you are treated the way you think you deserve to be treated. A man, or friend for that matter, will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Instead of complaining about it, how about making changes in your own life. Does your heart hurt when you are with people you love? Do you trust everyone in your inner circle? Do you experience more pain than love with certain individuals?
I have, over the past couple of years, changed my thoughts and ideas about relationships. I have finally gotten my "ducks" in order and made a conscious decision to relate to people who appreciate me. I am so very careful when I meet new people. I test them, see how they react in certain situations. I see how they treat me when we are out and about. I listen to what they are saying and see if they are listening to me. I have no problem getting to know someone. I now keep my fence up to ensure that the person I am getting to know is someone I would trust with my heart. When I know someone is a person who would keep my past experiences safe, I open up. I am so very happy to report that I have met someone very special that I feel safe with. It has taken so long. I am not sure where it will end, but I am sure enjoying the beginning.
I pray every day that my words will touch someone and make a difference... I hope this blog has done just that... If it has, please let me know...