I work very hard and am attending college to obtain my degree in the Human Service field. Writing makes me feel alive and gives me the opportunity to touch those whom I would not be able to otherwise. Last but not least, I have been blessed with two amazing daughters who love me completely and support my dreams. Feel free to contact me with questions, concerns or feedback.
Sandy* and I have known one another 15 years. We met through work and have been two peas in a pod ever since. I am fortunate to call this individual a friend and trust her completely with my thoughts, feelings and experiences.
A recent call brought a sense of sadness, distraught and also an increase in pulse. Sandy had received a text message stating that the guy she's been seeing has a girlfriend on the side. Not the type of text one wants to receive, yet it happened and is now the main topic of conversation.
I've been pondering since my last blog. How do I wrap things up given the sensitivity of the situation? I came up with a few thoughts, ideas and such and believe I have insight. This may or may not be of necessity to you, but it sure has helped put things into perspective for my girlfriends and I.
In the age of divorce, a certain amount of individuals have chosen to take the path of least resistance. Booty call, casual sex or friends with benefits, a great many have chosen this alternative. No matter the reasoning, some are claiming it's easy and breezy to have commitment free dates. As stated in a previous comment, I have had casual relationships at times. I am still friends with a majority of individuals I have spent time with and am fortunate to have been involved with some amazing persons.
My sisters and I were taught respect for our elders. This meant when Grandpa walked into the living room, we were to part faster than the Red Sea. If any adult walked into the room, children were required to sit on the floor, giving up all rights to their favorite seat in any room of the house. Although we didn't say "Yes Maam, Yes Sir", we were taught to listen, obey and be pleasant. Oh how far we've come.
My daughters were taught respect for themselves and others. They knew how to communicate with adults and refrained from causing chaos out and about. If they got out of line, it was dealt with immediately. I recall one time, a confession took place. I was informed my oldest had written with permanent magic marker on a sign attached to her school yard. Low and below, as I arrived home and headed that way, a sign, with her handwriting appeared before my eyes. We immediately went to Walgreens, picked up some Comet Cleanser, water and a towel. We went back to the school and scrubbed that sign clean. I then had her write a letter of apology to her Principal and went straight to school the next day for her to read the letter and make a confession. The Principal told my daughter, "You are lucky to have a mom like her, you will never forget this when you have children of your own."