I work very hard and am attending college to obtain my degree in the Human Service field. Writing makes me feel alive and gives me the opportunity to touch those whom I would not be able to otherwise. Last but not least, I have been blessed with two amazing daughters who love me completely and support my dreams. Feel free to contact me with questions, concerns or feedback.
I am a huge supporter of women. Men as well, but this blog is dedicated to women, because, well, I can.
With the cold weather came a new sort of trouble. My clutch began to act funny. It was rejecting the idea I wanted to shift into another gear. It was fighting me. The clutch pedal began to have more of a give, the stick didn't feel it's normal smoothness to simply glide into place. Granted, I've had the master and slave cylinder replaced within the last 2 years so my idea was that it was simply cold. Needless to say, after calling my mechanic, I drove to a local auto parts shop and ended up meeting a mechanic. An actual mechanic. He took a look and mentioned there was no leaking around the main cylinder, it was most likely the slave cylinder. Also, the fluid was completely dry. After a quick refill he then went on to mention the ball joint on the driver's side. After grabbing his business card and driving off, I was reminded that many women don't have their basic needs met. This blog is dedicated to those women.
Every woman needs a good friend. Someone she can go to for absolutely anything on her mind. A gal who not only listens but listens intently, without the purpose of doing anything but simply loving her. This friend must also be strong enough to take her hand, grab her by the shoulders, whatever it takes to shake her awake at times. The times when we're going down a road less traveled, or more traveled, depending on the circumstance. Your friend must be able to give input regardless of your particular feelings at the moment. This shows a level of strength and love despite how you may or may not react. I've had friends who have stepped up to the plate and said, "I love you but I simply have to say it, I've heard this before, let's not go there again." A good friend is someone you can tell your deepest, darkest secrets to and not only do they love you, but they connect with you because of their deepest, darkest secrets as well.
Every woman needs a good mechanic. This usually happens when you're at the end of your rope with a particular vehicle and you finally have the nerve to ask your friends who they recommend. I was fortunate when working at a previous position that I had quite a few close acquaintances. I mentioned trouble I was having with my Toyota and my friend Scott gave me the name and number of Louie. Louie and his wife are two of the most fantastic people I've met. Both work on vehicles and have two of the most precious little girls you could ever imagine. Louie has not only helped me at night and on the weekends, he will hook up his tow to his vehicle and tow my car to his house. I thank God for them every single day.
Every women needs an outlet. As a woman who's raised two daughters, I've understood the guilt of wanting to do something by yourself, for yourself or just simply take a break from the chaos which ensues at times. Just as your children have their friends, and will eventually date and have that someone special, it is within ever woman's rights to have a special friend, guy, girl or an avenue as an adult to go out and enjoy yourself. This can be once a week, month or year. I can't tell you how many women I know who feel guilty simply leaving the house to go grocery shopping. Women must remember that we have children to raise them and send them out in the world. It is your right to keep your inner spark alive by continuing to invest in your own emotional, mental and physical well being.
Every women needs a good Doctor and OB/GYN. I can't tell you how important your health is. I've been very fortunate to have had some of the finest medical professionals on my side. My heart doctor, Dr. Anwer Dhala, took care of me for many years. Way back when I was stricken with an irregular heartbeat. Throughout the years, he has taken excellent care of me, even when I was without insurance. His Nurse and right hand woman, Kristin, is one of my favorite people in the world. (forgive me if I spelled your first name incorrectly!!!) She listened, gave input and cared about me. Not only my heart but she listened to me through struggles and triumphs. Christine Feierstein has been my favorite nurse regarding gynecological care. She has always listened to me and gave me the best advice when it came to sexual health. I completely trust her advice and direction regarding my body.
Every woman needs a voice. As someone who has learned to use hers over time, I see way too many women in relationships or situations where they can't or won't speak up. I have seen a great majority of women unsatisfied in marriages simply because they've accepted their fate or refuse to rock the boat. I truly believe unless each woman is given a voice at birth, it takes sometimes a life changing or rock bottom situation for a woman to find her voice. After being in a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship for over 10 years, after choosing to be with men I felt like I had to save, I finally said ENOUGH! I decided that I was my problem. My way of thinking was skewed. I had to do the dirty work to figure out why I accepted so very little and gave so very much. Why I didn't feel like I had the right to ask for my needs to be met as well. Today I stand before you a woman who's willing to be single rather than live of life less than what I need and deserve. I now give women the voice they need and deserve as well.
Every woman needs a partner who will take care of her needs. Not just her car, house or shoveling the driveway, I am talking about her physical, emotional and mental needs. Every woman deserves a man or woman who will hold her, touch her, kiss her and make mad passionate love to her. A guy who can't wait to see her and just simply hold her hand. The guy or girl who enjoys hearing your voice, listening to your day, is that shoulder you will need to cry on when your Dad passes away, your best friend is stricken with cancer or your beloved pet is no longer with her. As much as I believe in women's rights, I truly believe that women forgo believing that they will need someone. Not just a best girlfriend, but a partner as well. Someone they can lie next to every night, knowing that person has their best interest at heart and will do whatever it takes to keep their relationship sacred and safe from the rest of the world.
Every woman needs love, compassion and empathy. As a woman who's been an empty nester for the past 3 years, it's really something else going from hugs and kisses to null and void. According to a study regarding orphanages, it is stated that it takes 12 hugs a day to sustain you. As someone who doesn't get hugs on a daily basis, I completely agree. My suggestion is not to seek out another individual to fill this need, instead, volunteer with an organization who helps abused women and children. There is nothing greater than holding a child who hasn't experienced a loving touch. Think of the difference you can make, not only in your life, but theirs as well.
To all the women out there, you deserve to take care of yourself and allow others to take care of you. Never forgo your inner desires and individuality. Your children will survive if you choose to spend a night on the town, or even a weekend with a special person. The sooner you fill your life with amazing adventures, the less you will become lost when your children move on to teen and adulthood.
To all of my amazing friends, I salute you, I appreciate you, I value you, I treasure you. Because of you, I am smiling today!
I love you!