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I read it, the latest greatest novel for women, aka porn at its finest. Let’s just say that being the kind of girl I am I view it in a few different lights. Let’s discuss.
Spoiler alerts: I am going to discuss certain aspects of the book. I am going to ruin the anticipation. Reader be warned.
The book covers a girl named Anastasia Steele. Never-Been-Kissed much less made it to first base virgin. She stumbles into Christian Grey who has delved into areas of life which make the faintest faint. This is a “my body parts love you” type of story.
Very early on, he takes her, to places she’s never been. Her body reacts in a very positive way which creates a feeling of “love” within her somewhere. This feeling allows her to say yes to a direction she may have never gone.
There is a plot, borderline normal for any “college graduate living with her girlfriend” type of normal. The roommate lives a life of luxury, is outspoken, vibrant and beautiful, exactly the type of life Anastasia dreams of.
Moving on to the good stuff. After Christian “takes her” they begin a back and forth of “I love him, why won’t he change”, to his “I’ll try because I want you baby.” Because she believes him, she allows him to use her at his will. Her mind screams no, her body shouts yes. The feelings, thoughts and ideas within the pages are of any one of us who has been in this type of relationship.
We’ve all been there, well, some of us have. We meet someone, the kiss is good, we become addicted and go back for more. We know it’s wrong, we’re hanging out (aka getting it on with) someone our friends, family and pastor would disapprove of. We stay because, for one moment, even if physically, it feels good. We can’t let go, because we don’t know when we’ll once again feel oh so good.
Sex is a guaranty, good sex is not. The minute someone “does it” for you, you become connected to that person. It overrides common sense, because feelings experienced via the nerve endings and sweet spots cover the eyes. It causes a sort of mental, emotional and physical blindness. We have all been there, done that and may do it again.
There is absolutely no magic pill to cure one of this desire, pull and want. Because our body has needs and is able to bring us to state of euphoria, we are directed back to any source of pleasure. Our friends and family try to warn us, we forgo the heed. At times, we may hide the fact that we saw “him” again. We break it off, cry and go back for more. This is completely normal because honey, this too shall never pass.
If you are or have ever been in this situation, you are not alone. It is completely normal to want what feels good. As an adult, you have the right to make whatever decisions you desire regarding your body. Whether it is a temporary or long term partner, make sure you’re doing everything in your power to protect your heart, mind, body and spirit. Most important, for the love of everything in life, if you are with a new partner or anyone who has more than you, please use protection. Forgo putting yourself in a situation which may cause you lifelong harm.
Good or bad, pleasure or pain, this too shall pass.