I work very hard and am attending college to obtain my degree in the Human Service field. Writing makes me feel alive and gives me the opportunity to touch those whom I would not be able to otherwise. Last but not least, I have been blessed with two amazing daughters who love me completely and support my dreams. Feel free to contact me with questions, concerns or feedback.
Regardless of my circumstances, I am going to do my best to write from the heart. The same heart which is being glued back together, piece by piece.
I’m going to give it to you straight. Not just from personal experience but from the tears, heartache and hours of conversations I’ve had with women around the world.
For any women who’s given birth, adopted, fostered, become a guardian to or loved a child, not every Mother’s Day brings the bliss Hallmark promises. Some years are better than others. We struggle with feelings of love, loss, sadness, rejection, and all of the above within seconds. When it’s good, it’s amazing, like sitting on Cloud 10. When it’s not, let’s just say the depths barely scratch the surface.
This blog is to every man and woman who has stepped in to make a difference. Who has given of themselves unconditionally for a period of time. Who has sacrificed more than money. I am referring to those who put their needs, wants, desires and everything on hold to invest in another. Whether it’s your own child, nephew, niece, student, neighbor, child’s friend, kid on the playground, etc, if you have taken time out of your life for someone smaller than yourself, consider yourself a parent.
The truth of the matter is this. Our children are a loan. They are meant to be with us for a period of time. Whether it’s a day, month year, or many, each and every single day is a gift. As parents it is impossible to know exactly what direction to take on any given day. Sometimes we falter, other times our children love us simply because we breathe.
When your children depart, whether by passing or choice, know this: it is not easy, it is sad, it is heartbreaking. Because they are “adults” and believe they know best, they may say goodbye. Then again, they may not. It is important to have a strong support system. Many others are walking in your shoes and many more will after. Turn to your friends and partner during this time. They need you as much as you need them. Last but not least, you are not alone.
For those who still feel the need to parent, consider volunteering, babysit or become a Big Brother or Big Sister. There are many children who have not been as fortunate as your own. Your love will not only go a long way but may save the life of a child and his or her family as well.
** To those who are without children or not on the cloud, head out, get busy and celebrate when the time is right. Make the day about you and those you love. I’m here if you need me.