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Like. Lust. Want. Need. Desire.
Each holds a very different emotion. Love in and of itself is separate from each.
Falling in love. This statement brings about warm and fuzzy feelings. Women weep, men let their guard down. There is nothing greater than connecting with another you believe is reciprocating this emotion.
I love my car, I love sushi, I love sports, I love art, I love music, I love flowers and sunshine. Per the Great Taylor Swift’s SNL monologue song, “I love glitter and sparkly dresses.” Each one represents a different sensation and fulfillment in and of itself.
Love can happen in a moment or over a period of time. Love is a feel good sort of thing. It can bring you to your highest highs and lowest lows as quickly as it began.
“They say” women fall in love emotionally and mentally, and men fall in love physically. I think it is all encompassing throughout each of the sexes. Ask a woman if she has ever had feelings of grandeur drooling over her favorite movie or rock star. I, for one, claim to love Rod Stewart. Low and behold, he has yet to call.
There is no “right” way to love. There can be a wrong way, but seeing as this is a touchy feely type of article, let’s start with the pros.
Love allows us the opportunity to walk a path of safety and elation. It’s a buildup of excitement regarding the known and unknown.
When in the proper context, it causes men and women great desire for something so much more. We want to look better, smell better, walk better and behave better. Our moods lighten, we discover compassion and kindness. We can’t wait to shout on the loveseat, “I AM IN LOVE!!” Tom Cruise proved this on Oprah years ago.
Love is an action, consideration, a “feel good” theory. Let’s talk about what love should be.
Love should make you happy, want to be a better person, and a desire to see your partner smile, in and out of the bedroom. It is more than physical interaction; it is an emotional buildup over time. It is a trusting, honest, compassionate exchange between two or more persons. People, wanting the best for one another, accepting individuality in lieu of the expectation of change after the “I do.”
A friend married for 30 years quoted: “You must like your partner, in and out of the bedroom, you must want to please them and accept them pleasing you in turn. You must be friends.” Another friend, married 50 years, stated, “You must agree on who God is and how many children you want to have, the rest will fall into place.”
We’ve covered what love should be. Let’s flip the coin, head to the opposite side of love. Follow along….
The opposite of love brings about feelings of jealousy, turns one friend against the other and causes dissention between parent-child relationships. It makes one feel bad, guilty or shameful. It instills harm, degradation and fear. The opposite of love causes mental, emotional, spiritual and physical pain, internal and external. Most important, it compromises your worth, value and self-esteem over the course of a minute, hour, month, year or decade.
Finding the courage to love yourself is the first step… The rest will fall into place.