I work very hard and am attending college to obtain my degree in the Human Service field. Writing makes me feel alive and gives me the opportunity to touch those whom I would not be able to otherwise. Last but not least, I have been blessed with two amazing daughters who love me completely and support my dreams. Feel free to contact me with questions, concerns or feedback.
In our third chapter in the series, we dive into the area which intrigues us most. Falling in love. For anyone who has had a first love, the significance of this emotion is so great that it is never forgotten.
I believe in love. I believe in connection. I believe in the happily ever after. Love brings us to our highest highs and lowest lows. A simple song can bring us back to that one moment of the first glance, embrace or kiss.
I welcome you to one man's point of view regarding love. You may agree or disagee yet I still have faith that each of us innately desires to connect beyond the "Hey, how's it going" with another human being.
Once again, questions, from the mouth of Babe and answers from The Player.
FALLING IN LOVE
Me: What type of woman makes a man want to settle down?
Player: I truly believe it’s subconscious and everyone is different with answering this. We go with what we know. Most people look at love the way their parents loved or the way they think love should be.
Me: What changed your mind about love?
Player: The person I love and loves me back.
Me: What percentages of men have no desire or need for a long term relationship or love?
Player: Not many because they think they have to be. It would be much higher if society didn’t look down upon multiple relationships or being alone.
Me: What is the main misconception about relationships between men and women?
Player: That we have to be in a relationship with anyone or even just one person at a time. That type of brainwashed thinking perpetuated the “have to be married” bullshit guilt and guilted men and women into marriage when they shouldn’t have been married. I blame society for that shit.
Me: What do men really wish women would “get” regarding love and sex?
Player: It’s not the bullshit you see in the movies. That’s the little girl fantasy that doesn’t exist and if it does it’s not for long. The feeling in the beginning of the relationship is such a high for most women but women need to know it doesn’t last and you have to be ready for the crash. If you’re not, you’re going to mistakenly think you don’t love him anymore. So many women spend their lives chasing that feeling of new love and don’t realize it. Sex is the same way, be ready for the crash. The relationships that last a life time are the ones that survive that crash and the two people are mature enough to understand that.
Me: Why do men marry good girls and date bad girls?
Player: Good girls bring security to life, bad girls bring headaches.
Last but not least, there is absolutely nothing more wonderful than falling in love yet the greatest gift of all is falling in love with yourself.
NEXT WEEK: Thoughts, ideas and wrapping it all up.