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My email, “Hey you!!! I need your help... wondering if you or any guy you know was ever a "player"... looking to write a new article about how men view sex when it's outside of a committed relationship... an 'In all honesty" type of article.. completely confidential, no names will be used in the writing of this whatsoever.”
His response, “Send me the questions.”
I promised complete anonymity, no animals would be harmed in the making of. I went where few dare to go. I asked a man to trust me. Little old me.
He is a 40 year old white male, gainfully employed, experienced, successful in his own right and knows the deal. Total number of partners thus far is between 20-30. Types of experience have been everything except other men.
This man, (aka “The Player”), is a guy who has the balls to spill mountains of beans. He’s been there, done that and has agreed to answer the tough questions.
I respect him. Regardless of your feelings, he opened up, no holds barred. No favors, promises or finances were offered in exchange for this rare commodity.
I wanted to know, in fact, inquiring minds want to know, what’s the deal? How does the “Lady in the street, freak in the bed” come into play? Do men have feelings outside of their zippers? Why are we still waiting, hoping for him to love us exactly the way we love him? Is there something, anything, to open our eyes? Please, help us, we’re dying here!
After a minute, I constructed a series of questions; straightforward, to the point, from the mouth of a Babe. Sit back, relax and enjoy the ride.
ONE NIGHT STANDS AND SUCH
Me: Mr. Player, what has been your best sexual experience?
Player: Babe, the best was a one night stand with a complete stranger
Me: What has been your worst?
Player: The last time I had sex with my ex-wife.
Me: Within how many minutes does one determine if anyone is more than a one night stand?
Player: Depends on the guy. I know as soon as she opens her mouth. If she’s well spoken, not caught up in drama and the club scene and she’s not sending out the “let’s do it tonight” signals.
Me: Can a one night stand turn into a long term relationship?
Player: Sure, but how many end in life long relationships? FEW!
Me: What lines to men use to make women believe that a long term relationship is possible?
Player: Not sure, I never used lines. I always found just being up front worked the best.
Me: Have you told someone you loved them to keep them around?
Player: Never but I mistakenly thought I knew what love was at the time but I didn’t.
Me: How long have you dated someone knowing it would end?
Player: 3 months but she knew it wasn’t going to last either
Me: What lies have you told to keep a woman around?
Player: None, but I lied to myself
NEXT WEEK : SEX AND CHEATING...