I work very hard and am attending college to obtain my degree in the Human Service field. Writing makes me feel alive and gives me the opportunity to touch those whom I would not be able to otherwise. Last but not least, I have been blessed with two amazing daughters who love me completely and support my dreams. Feel free to contact me with questions, concerns or feedback.
Hey parents, listen up! I am not instructing you on how to parent, or what to do in case of an emergency. I am speaking on behalf of all hard working citizens who spend their hard earned money to escape their own. You know the ones who rarely get a night out, by themselves. Two adults, deserving of some quiet and, (possibly even) a piece at the end of the night.
I have worked long and hard to reach this point; more freedom and individuality than not. As a mother of adult daughters, let me tell ya! With one working and attending college, the last but never least working, I am finally able to do whatever for the most part. Walking into a quiet home, being able to watch television or listen to music without compromise, sitting and doing absolutely nothing, it’s about as close to heaven as one gets.
Because I have worked so very hard raising responsible, kind daughters, I am now able to focus on me, myself, and I. It may sound selfish but one day you too will understand. Until that time comes, please heed my call.
When I spend my hard earned money outside of my home, I have absolutely no desire to entertain your two year old in a restaurant, movie theatre, grocery store, movie rental, drug store, shopping mall, you get my point! I know I sound callous, a bit cold even. After twenty-plus years, I have earned the right to be free of temper tantrums, disrespect, running, crying, kicking and screaming.
I know your child is the center of your universe. I know you live vicariously through Junior, I don’t. I have been there, done that, and have probably tired just as many with tales of diapers, teeth, kindergarten and gold stars.
I understand you deserve meals in a public place. I know how difficult it is to afford a sitter. I know you believe that Little Suzie can handle herself from appetizer to “check please”! Maybe she can. Yet, in all honesty, a 2 year old has about as much self-control as piranha in a goldfish tank. Neither wants to wait, for anything. Sitting for 20 minutes is like being in time out hell. It doesn’t work, and you shouldn’t expect it to.
Last but not least: when my partner and I are enjoying a night out and your child throws a tantrum, it may cause either of us a headache. It is at this time the excuse may become truth, leaving one or the other without a happy ending.
To all of those who have grown children of their own.. you're welcome!