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A year or so ago, I wrote about what turned me off. I have since had a bit more insight and would like the men, and women, of the world to clean up their acts. I am giving you first hand info, the ancient Chinese Secrets of dating. Sit back and enjoy.
I date, a lot. (Note: date does not equal sex.) I know plenty of individuals. I have friends all over the United States. I am 100% certain of what makes or breaks me regarding an intimate relationship. Either it is or it’s not. There is no gray, semi-gray or light gray area in my book.
I don’t have a “type”. I have dated all sorts of men. Short, tall, thin, not so thin, in shape, out of shape, rich, not so rich, blonde, red, brunette, intelligent, sarcastic, bad boys, good boys, etc. Let’s just say I am speaking from experience.
What characteristics make me want a second or third date? What is it that makes me want to share my time with another human being?
First and foremost, I am a busy girl. I work hard and take care of my family and home. When I am on a date, I want to sit back, relax and enjoy the ride. I don’t care where we eat, what we do or how much we spend. I want to smile, I want to laugh and most important, I want to be myself.
Mutual ideas about life, love and the pursuit of happiness are on the front line. A person who takes pride in his health by working out, oral hygiene and showering. Someone who is strong, takes care of business and is financially able to take care of his family. A man who is completely single, not currently separated or wrapping up loose ends.
I want to want you. I want to be sexually compatible. I want you to be naughty, flirty and sexy. I want you to be sexually confident, not afraid to grab hold and kiss me in public. A little PDA never killed anyone. Be aggressive! Be be aggressive!
Can I speak for all women, no, yet the women I befriend have very similar beliefs. Those who have divorced and survived are less likely to fall into the “like” trap ever so quickly. Many take care of business, own their own homes, have their own money and rely on no-one for survival.
If you feel the need to connect 5-8 times a day via text, calling or email, go back to grade school. Asking who, what, where, when and why about my time outside of you is a play for control. Without trust, don’t let the door hit ya. Because I am 100% genuine, there is absolutely no need for you to come in and do things your way. If I wanted it different, it would be different. If you don’t like the way I dress, eat, sleep, walk, talk, spell, work or raise my kids, move on. If and when I ask your opinion, feel free, if not, don’t.
If you are dishonest, refrain from calling. No need to tell me you slept with my best friend, you weren’t that great anyway. I will survive, I’ve survived way worse.
If you live by the 3 day rule, move on. If you like me, call me. Once. Leave a message. If I like you, I will return your call. If I don’t it’s no big deal. Remember, I am not the only cool, sexy and pretty girl on the planet, there are many of us.
Last but not least, find your happy place as a single person. I know I have, and life, my friend, is mahvelous!!